Thursday, 13 June 2013

SUN TV Kalyanamalai Shooting – Erode



KM Matrimony has conducted its  SUN TV – Kalyanamalai shooting at Platinum Mahal, RN Pudhur, Erode on 8th June 2013. The shooting is being first such shooting in Erode, the advance announcement about the program had created lots of enthusiasm among the people living in Erode and places close by to it. A good number of marriage aspirants had applied well in advance to take part in the profile introduction shooting  and get introduced by Thiru Kalyanamalai Mohan. Incidentally, Kalyanamalai program coincided with the inauguration of the Platinum Mahal.

The program started with Vivaha Prarthana a joint prayer organized for the early marriage of the marriage aspirants. A good number of parents with their son or daughter have participated in the Sankalpam with all the faith and prayed for the early marriage. The Prarthana started around 7.00 AM  with Harithra Ganapathi Homam seeking the blessings of Ganapathi for a prosperous life, Gubera Mahalakshmi Homam to attain wealth, Sri Swayamvara Parvathi Homam and Sahasranama Archanai for hurdle free early marriage, Navagraha Homam to get rid of chevvai, sarpa graha dosham and ended around 10.30 AM with the completion of Poorna Ahuthi.
Around 70 marriage aspirants turned up to the location with their parents, guardian or friends to take part in the profile introduction shooting. They very happily interacted with Kalyanamalai Mohan during the introduction shooting and sought his blessings for an early marriage.  The unique SUN TV – Kalyanamalai program running on its 13th year has assisted over 85% of the marriage aspirants participated in the program with a happy married life.

The SUN TV – Kalyanamalai shooting program started with the welcome address of Thamizharasi Damodaran. Thirumathi Meera Nagarajan introduced the invited honourable guests during the lighting of divine lamp and the inauguration of the function and Thiru Kalyanamalai Mohan spoke his mind.

A large gathering of people from Erode and nearby places eagerly joined the pattimandram program Chaired by Prof. Ramachandran and participated by Actor Director Pandiarajan, Mr. Sivakumar, Prof. Jeyanthasri, Ms.Nalini Sampathkumar, Ms.Bhuvana Seshan and Actor Vishwa. The participants made their presentation on the interesting topic ‘Whether the present  conditions are conducive  for people with good qualities to survive and lead a with good morals’. Prof. Ramachandran concluded saying that it is still possible for the  people with good qualities survive.   

Let not the Technological Innovations Decide the Fate of Your Marriage

Telecom and technological innovations during the last decade and the continuing of new inventions are slowly and steadily eroding the personal life of the present day couple. The demanding current day living styles are quite in contrast to the calm and sedate living styles of yesteryear couples.

The communication gadgets such as laptop and mobile phone are playing a crucial role in  preventing the young couple to have work life balance. These two gadgets are cited as reasons for most of the family wrangles of today. The changed and demanding work culture necessitates either or both the couples to use such gadgets even at  home. The problem becomes multiplied when only one of them becomes more connected to a laptop or a mobile phone at home.

If a male starts using the laptop connected to the internet at home to answer the emails or prepare and send his emails he often forgets the presence of his partner. More often, such a neglect will even deprive passionate moments and normal sex activity between the couple. Most of the time they hardly exchange few words or sometimes none. Some of them use internet enabled mobile phones that serve the dual purpose of watching the internet as well as talking. Some of them even while talking with their spouses will continue to text the messages without giving due attention to the conversation.

More often the affected female partner instead of taking up the issue with her husband will feel neglected and isolated. Even if she tries to initiate any conversation, it normally will get a mute response from the husband who is engrossed with his laptop. The neglected woman often takes the extreme step of demanding a divorce.

Similarly, there are instances where wives are engrossed and engaged in social networks such as Facebook for hours together or talking on a  mobile phone for a longer duration. The women addicted to mobile talking often do not socialise personally in groups or engage intimately with an interest in their family related activities. They often become irritable where there are no Facebook messages or when they forget to carry their mobile phone with them.

If either of the partners becomes obsessive with email checking even at midnight, glued to the laptop while at home, talking or texting using mobile phone without any family oriented interaction at home, it affects the other partner. She/he feels isolated when the partner ignores her/his real presence at home and go in search of virtual friends at social networks and interacts with them.

The emerging researches calls the internet addiction and obsession to social network usage by the married couple as perturbing trend that needs immediate correction. It indicates that such a trend if go unchecked will lead to increased rate of divorce among the newly married,

Wednesday, 5 June 2013

Wives – Know the Secrets of a Long Happy Marriage

Recently I had attended the sathabishekam of an old couple. Incidentally, it was also their 60th marriage year celebration day. When the marriage took place the groom was just 19 years old and the bride was 15 years old.
In the evening, I took the time to interact with the old man, to know his ideas about the role of a husband, in keeping the marriage productive and successful. Though, some of the things he had mentioned may not suit the present scenario, but most of his experiences will certainly help the young married grooms or those who look forward to marry. I am sharing his ideas in his own words.

Continue to show your affection

I always keep my wife in high esteem and show her my affection. I showed the same level of warmth over all the years and it did not decline even once. I had never allowed my personal emotions or stresses to envelop me while being with her. I took care to draw a line between my personal problems and my affection towards her.

Never persist to point-out the weaknesses

I believe that all of us have some weakness or other. Some of such weaknesses can be corrected and some of them will remain with us till our death. In the past, while I had helped my wife to overcome some of her weak points, I never had insisted on her becoming 100% perfect. In fact, while helping her to correct her weaknesses, I had requested her to assist me to overcome my own weaknesses. This has helped both of us to understand each others weaknesses. While, we could get rid of some of our weaknesses, we learned to adjust and live with the others.

Managing difference of opinion

I know it is impossible for a married couple to live without having a difference of opinion or a fight over about who is right in all their life. We too had differences of opinions, but the developed understanding had helped us to manage such occasions without making a shouting.
During every such differences we took care to listen to the opinion of the other without passing a judgment and always stopped our discussion at a point. We allowed our ideas to simmer and surface again after two days. Invariably, we found that such an attempt always brings new clarity on the suggested opinions and the best idea was chosen despite the fact who originated it.
Difference of opinions did creep into our lives too. But we learnt to manage them without shouting at the other. I never called my wife with unpalatable names or branded her ideas as negative anytime. Also, we took care to not to argue on any subject before our children when they were young. We always took their opinion when they become old.

Do things that are important to her too

From the day one, I took care not to be selfish by doing things that are important to me by ignoring her. I invariably accompanied her to whatever place she wanted me to join her. In the process she had learnt about my preferences and comfort level. This has enabled her to invite me to only to those places that are comfortable for both of us and not to all the places. I know her preferences and had never compelled her into doing things that are not easy for her.

Don’t allow your emotions to initiate a distance between you

I know that some of the couples of our age which includes our relatives don’t talk for a week or more when they develop difference of opinion or fight. They will maintain a stoic silence between themselves during the period. I had seen their chocked and flared-up emotions will always result in the use of most hurting words when they open up next time. I had never allowed it to happen between me and my wife. We too had fights and difference of opinions but they never lasted for more than an hour or two.

Maintain your Attraction

I always try to be attractive to her and never allowed my age to overtake my personal hygiene or dress consciousness. I don’t dress too conservatively and had never interfered with the dressing preferences of my wife, because both of us know each others taste.

Husbands – Know the Secrets to Have a Long Happy Marriage

Recently I had attended the sathabishekam of an old couple. Incidentally, it was also their 60th marriage year celebration day. When the marriage took place the groom was just 19 years old and the bride was 15 years old.
In the evening, I took the time to interact with the old man, to know his ideas about the role of a husband, in keeping the marriage productive and successful. Though, some of the things he had mentioned may not suit the present scenario, but most of his experiences will certainly help the young married grooms or those who look forward to marry. I am sharing his ideas in his own words.

Continue to show your affection

I always keep my wife in high esteem and show her my affection. I showed the same level of warmth over all the years and it did not decline even once. I had never allowed my personal emotions or stresses to envelop me while being with her. I took care to draw a line between my personal problems and my affection towards her.

Never persist to point-out the weaknesses
I believe that all of us have some weakness or other. Some of such weaknesses can be corrected and some of them will remain with us till our death. In the past, while I had helped my wife to overcome some of her weak points, I never had insisted on her becoming 100% perfect. In fact, while helping her to correct her weaknesses, I had requested her to assist me to overcome my own weaknesses. This has helped both of us to understand each others weaknesses. While, we could get rid of some of our weaknesses, we learned to adjust and live with the others.

Managing difference of opinion
I know it is impossible for a married couple to live without having a difference of opinion or a fight over about who is right in all their life. We too had differences of opinions, but the developed understanding had helped us to manage such occasions without making a shouting.
During every such differences we took care to listen to the opinion of the other without passing a judgment and always stopped our discussion at a point. We allowed our ideas to simmer and surface again after two days. Invariably, we found that such an attempt always brings new clarity on the suggested opinions and the best idea was chosen despite the fact who originated it.
Difference of opinions did creep into our lives too. But we learnt to manage them without shouting at the other. I never called my wife with unpalatable names or branded her ideas as negative anytime. Also, we took care to not to argue on any subject before our children when they were young. We always took their opinion when they become old.

Do things that are important to her too

From the day one, I took care not to be selfish by doing things that are important to me by ignoring her. I invariably accompanied her to whatever place she wanted me to join her. In the process she had learnt about my preferences and comfort level. This has enabled her to invite me to only to those places that are comfortable for both of us and not to all the places. I know her preferences and had never compelled her into doing things that are not easy for her.

Don’t allow your emotions to initiate a distance between you

I know that some of the couples of our age which includes our relatives don’t talk for a week or more when they develop difference of opinion or fight. They will maintain a stoic silence between themselves during the period. I had seen their chocked and flared-up emotions will always result in the use of most hurting words when they open up next time. I had never allowed it to happen between me and my wife. We too had fights and difference of opinions but they never lasted for more than an hour or two.

Maintain your Attraction

I always try to be attractive to her and never allowed my age to overtake my personal hygiene or dress consciousness. I don’t dress too conservatively and had never interfered with the dressing preferences of my wife, because both of us know each others taste.